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Who's to say what real love is? Now, people often find themselves in a loveless marriage, obligated to stay together for the kids, or whatever reason. So many people don't value how precious the eternal bond between two people is. It shouldn't be neglected, it shouldn't be comfortable, it shouldn't be just another emotion to name.

There is no such thing as a self made man. I think there had to have been a love somewhere to motivate him. That's where love defines the worth of one's life. Love, the most powerful feeling, so indescribable, is sought after so much because it ultimately leads us to the goals of normal peoples' lives: happiness. We all want it, we actually need it, but the question remains, "what is real love?"

This is just my speculation, so take it with a grain of salt. To me, it is selfless. Real lovers love to love their partner and do whatever they can to make him or her happiest. Love is when you love every imperfection as if they didn't matter, or appeared to disappear as time goes on. Real love is the kind of love that makes you want to sit up for hours massaging your love's back after a long day of work, only to ask nothing in return. My idea of real love is summed up into these two phrases:
"Love isn't what you're expected to get, it's what you're expected to give, which is everything."
"I love you not only for who you are, but who I am when I am with you."

I think real love is when you love someone so much that you will honestly, truthfully do anything for them, even love their imperfections. Each day with them grows more and more enriched in passion and connection. It is selfless. It also makes you want to do things that improve who you are. Real love makes you explore yourself, opens up your mind and heart to be a much better person than you ever were before. in real love, I think we become better people. It doesn't make you do harmful things to yourself. It doesn't make you make bad decisions about your life. Real love is not like that. It is selfless and encouraging.

Now THAT is a difficult task to accomplish in our selfish, materialistic world today. It's hard to find someone who isn't money-hungry or shallow. That's why when love comes to your door, you better open it with a lot of courage.

Where do I think the role of fate plays? I do believe in fate, however I think it is abused by the careless ideals of selfish people. It's not like we go outside one day and there's someone holding a sign outside of your door that says "you will meet your soulmate today at 4PM at so and so park. Go now." No, love wouldn't be as appreciated if that were the case. I like to think of love like the weather. We go through all these changes: phenomenal storms, peacful warm summers. Love, like the weather, changes. Sometimes you are prepared for the rain with an umbrella, sometimes you aren't. That's what loves seems to be like for me. We don't see those blatant signs, love falls down on us like the changing rain. We either find ourselves drowning in it at one point, sprinkled in light showers, or under a long dry spell. It's just here all around us nonetheless. As selfish as we are, I think love makes this world stay together. we just need more of it.

Here's something else that's so rare... when all you want is your lover to be happy, even if you aren't with him/her. Now that's rare. It's not often that that happens, but I've met some who their only concern was that the person they loved, or cared for was happy. That's selfless... that's real love.

The most amazing feelings are the ones that go undescribed, poetry sometimes doesn't do real love any justice. It exists in our world, we just need to be more selfless to see that it is there.
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